Single or Unmarried?

What’s the Point of This Book?

This book argues that singles who are not called to celibacy should first strive to attain true singleness before entering marriage. Against the backdrop of our flawed human nature, this is essential for building a healthy and successful marriage.

For those already married, it is better late than never. Every healthy relationship, especially marriage, thrives on interdependence—a two-way street where both partners can give, receive, and grow.

The book also exposes how society has historically stigmatized, marginalized, and pressured singles through economic, spiritual, and cultural expectations, often making marriage appear to be the ultimate measure of adulthood, worth, or fulfillment.

These subtle pressures can push people into marriages for the wrong reasons—sometimes into relationships that have effectively ended before the marriage certificate is signed.

The consequences are evident in divorce, broken homes, and the emotional and psychological challenges passed on to future generations.

Ultimately, this book calls us to rethink singleness—not as a waiting room for marriage, but as a legitimate and necessary season of becoming.